Venus is in Aries this Valentine’s Day, so you need to do something brave and a little bit selfish. Whatever you want, make it happen, don’t wait for someone to do it for you, not today.  So that’s going to be exciting, but what’s even more exciting is that Venus is also square Pluto, so whatever it is that you are going to do for yourself, it’s not going to work out exactly how you thought it should and you may be intensely pissed about it. This doesn’t let you off the hook for going for what you want, because you are going to be disappointed either way, and it’s way better to be disappointed because something you did misfired then something you didn’t but wish you did. Don’t worry too much about your heartache, Venus is a fast moving planet and by the beginning of next week you will be better then ever.

 

Neptune and Chiron have been together for over a year now, so now that Venus is joining them it should only highlight how well you have mastered these combined energies. What are they? I’m so glad you asked. Neptune is all about escaping or if you like, transcending, giving you the ability to say, “this is such a great book” while you are stuck on the side of the road having run out of gas.  In true Neptune style, you will be rescued by some handsome guy/girl who happens by with an extra gas can with out you so much as lifting a finger, except to turn the page of your excellent book. In almost direct contrast, Chiron is about having a never ending festering painful wound that you, personally, have to manage on a daily basis, making you a master of googling remedies and trying them out, “why not, it can’t hurt” style. Both great tools for dealing with life’s problems. However, since these two have been together, you can neither properly escape nor can you productively get yourself into any self help program. Every time you plan an escape, it’s your turn to wash the dishes and every time you plan some program, the toilets flood or some such nonsense and you are stuck watching “How I Met Your Mother” reruns. Hence the art of the “Escape-Deal” where you learn to deal with whatever your “thing” is while at the same time running away from it. Or, apparently my preferred method, you can yo-yo between between the two, one moment being active the next totally passive, until your head spins. Whatever your choice it all feels rather uncomfortable, but Venus is here now, so try to enjoy it, take some pride in your ability to handle these guys in whatever creative way you have, for when all this is over and done, you will realize that you’ve experienced and accomplished far more than you are currently aware of.

 

 

 

 

Venus and Pluto are conjunct in Capricorn at the moment, an opportunity for intense transformation, emphasis on INTENSE. Meaning you may want to do bad things to your significant other, but instead you can channel that energy to learn more about yourself and become a truer, more honest, happier version of yourself. It’s also a great time to let go of any weird co-dependent behaviors you might still have hanging around. I gave this some thought and I have written down some of my insights below:

• Suffering is not noble, there is no medal for it. Although there totally should be, at the moment it’s a pointless, miserable activity, give it up.
• Choose to be happy, and things get better. Choose otherwise and see just how fast they can blow up in your face.
• No one remembers correctly, so it’s pointless to say, “but you said…” as it will inevitably be followed by, “no I most certainly did NOT.”
• No gratification comes from changing someone else, only yourself, counter-intuitive as this may seem at the time.

OK, now it’s your turn, send me your best relationship rules, insights, etc.

Mercury and Venus have been cruising along together in Scorpio for about a week, making communication, love, business, well…let’s face it…. life super intense and miserable. If you enjoy being deeply scrutinized for growth purposes I suppose this has been great fun for you, I, personally am so glad that the duo has moved on into Sagittarius so things can now get a bit lighter if sometimes too lofty. Also today, Moon is rolling over Neptune in Aquarius, where they are tying up last minute details on moving into the next paradigm shift. Meaning if you have big plans, you probably won’t really get to sink into them until February of next year. I know you thought it was going to happen sooner, but sorry, it’s not. You should know by now it never happens when you think it should and if you take a look around you there is still plenty to do. Thank you Lola, for making me take the time to look at the stars!!!