Venus and Pluto are conjunct in Capricorn at the moment, an opportunity for intense transformation, emphasis on INTENSE. Meaning you may want to do bad things to your significant other, but instead you can channel that energy to learn more about yourself and become a truer, more honest, happier version of yourself. It’s also a great time to let go of any weird co-dependent behaviors you might still have hanging around. I gave this some thought and I have written down some of my insights below:

• Suffering is not noble, there is no medal for it. Although there totally should be, at the moment it’s a pointless, miserable activity, give it up.
• Choose to be happy, and things get better. Choose otherwise and see just how fast they can blow up in your face.
• No one remembers correctly, so it’s pointless to say, “but you said…” as it will inevitably be followed by, “no I most certainly did NOT.”
• No gratification comes from changing someone else, only yourself, counter-intuitive as this may seem at the time.

OK, now it’s your turn, send me your best relationship rules, insights, etc.

We are going to get some Air, some light at the end of this Earth tunnel.  One of the nice things about the planets is that they keep moving.  Sun is now in Gemini and Moon will go into Aquarius tomorrow, stimulating Saturn in Libra, making it a great time to rewrite our relationships.  Take four pieces of paper, write down everything you love about your relationship on the first page and put it aside.  On the second page, write down everything you don’t like to everything you hate, then rip it up and throw that page away. On the third page, write down everything you wish you had, your ideal relationship. Then rip that up and throw it away too, because we are working with Saturn here not Neptune or Jupiter, so let’s get down to what’s real.  Then on the last page write down three things you are willing to commit to doing to improve the relationship, however slightly. Post first and fourth pages on the fridge, because that is what Saturn in Libra is all about, gratitude for the unique relationship you DO have, and steps you are willing to take yourself to make it better. Here is a picture of Saturn’s spectacular rings, said to be made up of comets, moons, and astroids that were bashed up in coming to close to the planet. Funny how this harsh planet is so beautiful.